Raising kids in end times.... Parenting kids that illustrate Narcissistic behaviors

     As you take time to observe your surroundings in recent times, you may have noticed that narcissism is very prevalent.  Many may not be diagnosed but illustrate many of the traits of a narcissist.  (Narcissistic personality disorder involves a pattern of self-centered, arrogant thinking and behavior, a lack of empathy and consideration for other people, and an excessive need for admiration. Others often describe people with NPD as cocky, manipulative, selfish, patronizing, and demanding.  (Narcissistic Personality Disorder - HelpGuide.org)

    It has been noted that this disorder is deeply rooted in childhood.  Many times children are overly catered to, or given minimum attention.  This plants the seed for nurturing the creation of a narcissist.  When others in society encounter these people as teenagers or adults, it is very nerve wrecking.  Many parents, coworkers, partners will begin to question themselves because the behaviors are very shocking and obnoxious .

Tips to raising kids that illustrate these behaviors:

Parents- set forth concise house rules.  Kids become negotiators and manipulators when they know you make "empty promises."  So if you say it, follow it through even if it is inconvenient.

1. Chores- Assign age appropriate chores to lay down the foundation of good housekeeping, teamwork, and responsibility.
2. Schoolwork- have the kids show you their assignments, and verify they are on task daily.
3. Friends and associates- always meet with parents and guardians before allowing them to interact with other children outside of normal places like school, church, youth clubs, etc.
4.  Parents- set the positive tone of the household,  and lead by example.  Avoid the temptations to give into manipulations and argue.  Do not respond negatively to poor choices the kids make.  Reintegrate your house rules and expectations.  Follow through with consequences.

Positive reinforcements and Consequences

1. Have the kids (a great idea for parents also) read a minimum of 10 pages of  material approved by you .  Have them give you a summary that answers the questions of Who, What, When, Where, and Why?
2. Try and have as many meals together at the table with open communication.  Avoid inflammatory topics.
3. Even when the kids disappoint you, remind them that they are loved.  Do not invalidate your affections for example, " I Love you, but you get on my nerves. "  Usually the last thing you say to your child will be embedded especially negative comments.  Give hugs daily.
4. When consequences are given out, see them through.  It is suggested when you restrict, the restriction should be for all privileges.  ( All electronics, all extracurricular activities, etc.)
5. Try and foster a relationship that the kids are comfortable talking to you about things, and try and be conservative with your criticisms .  Don't put pressure on yourself to respond right away.  Many times we as parents need time to process information before making an informed decision.

    Parenting is one of the hardest jobs in the world.  That in mind- Create and maintain a self care routine.  Do not be afraid to reach out for help.  Build your support village.  Make sure you avoid burnout by eating healthier, staying hydrated , and sticking to a bed time routine.  Most of all,  know that you are not alone in this journey called parenting!

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Be Blessed,

Roni~