In today's society there appears to be a high degree of n arcissistic  people on the loose.   Narcissism is  extreme self-involvement to the degree that it makes a person ignore the needs of those around them . While everyone may show occasional narcissistic behavior, true narcissists frequently disregard others or their feelings. They also do not understand the effect that their behavior has on other people. Dec 2, 2020 Narcissism: Symptoms and Signs - WebMD     In many relationships where domestic violence is present so are many of the traits of narcissism .  The abuser can be very cunning and appear to be so kind in front of others, but behind closed doors it can be like setting up camp next to an active volcano.  Some romantic relationships can start off with a high level of love-bombing and intense affection and attention.  However, most instincts will kick in and tell the victim that something isn't right.  Many times the abuser doesn't allow the victim to breathe